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Men,
Letβs get one thing straightβyour power in a relationship isnβt just about being the best option today. Itβs about whether you are the final choice in her mind.
Most men only focus on the present:
βSheβs with me now, so I must be her best choice.β
βSheβs loyal because sheβs not looking at new guys.β
βSheβs over her ex because they broke up.β
Wrong.
Women donβt just move forward; they hold onto emotional ties that serve their personal validation. And in doing so, they play a subconscious gameβeither ccking* her exes for youβ¦ or ccking* you for her exes. The one who gets c*cked loses frame. And most men never even realize it's happening.
PART 1
The Science of Why Women Keep One Foot in the Past
A womanβs ability to commit isnβt just about avoiding new opportunities. Itβs about whether sheβs fully abandoned her past. If she hasnβt, she is not 100% with you, no matter what she says.
Research backs this up.
Scientific studies show that 60% of women keep mementos from past relationships. (University of Kansas, 2021)
Women who hold onto old relationship artifactsβphotos, gifts, or even just social media connectionsβare 43% more likely to engage in infidelity. (Journal of Sex Research, 2019)
One study found that 74% of women admitted to occasionally thinking about past partners during sex. (Archives of Sexual Behavior, 2020)
What does this tell you? Women may physically move on, but emotionally, many never let go.
This is the battlefield most men never even see.
The Two Types of Relationship C*cking: Where Do You Stand?
There are only two ways this plays out in her mind:
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1. When She C*cks Her Exes for You
This is the ideal situation. She sees you as her upgrade. Youβre the prize, the top-tier man, and she enjoys making it clear to her past lovers that sheβs moved up.
She wants them to know sheβs chosen better.
She wants to present you as her dominant choice.
She wants them to feel like they lost her to a superior man.
This is the only dynamic where a woman can be happy long-termβwhen she fully commits to her new reality and takes pride in it.
But most men donβt get this version. They get the other one.
π¨ 2. When She C*cks You for Her Exes
This is the red flag, the dealbreaker, the warning sign of a woman who will never truly be yours. Sheβs still emotionally invested in her past. She keeps little reminders, stays in touch βjust as friends,β or plays subtle mind games that make you question whether you really measure up.
Hereβs how she does it:
Keeping Old Photos & Mementos β Studies show that 53% of women keep at least one intimate photo of an ex. (Psychology Today, 2022)
Social Media Breadcrumbing β She keeps following her ex, liking his posts, leaving subtle comments, or remaining tagged in old pictures.
Vague References to Past Lovers β Sheβll mention βsomeoneβ taking her to a certain place, an βamazingβ past trip, or a βwild timeβ she once hadβbut never name names. That forces you to wonder if you measure up.
Downplaying Your Concerns β If you bring this up, she calls you insecure. She frames you as the problem, gaslighting you into silence.
This is how she ensures she never fully lets go of her past. And if you allow this to continue, you are the one being c*cked.
Why Women Do This β The Dark Psychology of Relationship Power
This isnβt random. Itβs not just nostalgia. Itβs about control and validation.
1. Strategic Pluralism β Keeping Options Open
Women are biologically wired to secure both the best genes (alpha) and long-term security (beta). If she sees you as a provider, but not the most sexually exciting option, she copes by mentally holding onto her past.
If you ever hear her say, βMy ex was crazy, but the sex was amazing,β that should be a huge red flag. Sheβs telling you outright that she misses something he gave herβsomething you arenβt providing.
2. Emotional Insurance β The Backup Plan Effect
Women like security. Keeping an emotional tether to an ex gives her a psychological fallback plan. In case things donβt work out with you, she has a safety netβeven if itβs just in her mind.
A 2018 study found that 48% of women admitted to keeping in contact with an ex βjust in caseβ their current relationship didnβt work. (Evolutionary Psychology Journal)
If sheβs keeping a door open, even emotionally, sheβs not fully yours.
3. Dominance Testing β Seeing if Youβll Let It Slide
Women constantly test menβs strengthβconsciously or subconsciously. If she can drop hints about her past and make you insecure, she wins. But if you enforce your standards, you win.
Her respect for you is built on how much you tolerate. Weak men argue and get emotional. Strong men set boundaries and walk away.
What You MUST Do to Maintain Power in Your Relationship
If youβre dealing with a woman who still entertains the past, your choices are simple: Lead, or be led.
1. Set the Boundary Early
From day one, establish a non-negotiable rule: No emotional ties to past lovers.
No keeping photos.
No keeping in touch βas friends.β
No subtle social media connections.
If sheβs not willing to cut the cord, sheβs not fully investing in you.
2. Call Out Subtle Disrespect Immediately
If she makes a vague reference to a past lover, you donβt let it slide. You call it out.
βWe donβt talk about other men here.β
βIf youβre still looking back, you can go be with him.β
βI donβt compete with the past. Either youβre fully here, or youβre not.β
A woman respects a man who doesnβt tolerate disrespect.
3. Enforce Consequences β Be Willing to Walk
If she resists, argues, or calls you insecure, you have one response: You do not negotiate with low standards.
A woman will test you until she sees youβre willing to walk away. The second she realizes you will enforce your standards, she either corrects herselfβor reveals she was never truly yours to begin with.
PART 2:
Cucking Is More Common Than You Think
Letβs get something straight: Cucking isnβt just about watching another man sleep with your woman. Itβs something much deeper, something ingrained in female nature.
Studies show that around 70% of women admit to fantasizing about a previous partner while having sex with their current one. That means if youβre not the best sheβs ever hadβmentally, emotionally, sexuallyβthereβs a high chance sheβs thinking about someone else while sheβs with you.
Thatβs cucking.
Itβs the diminishment of one man in favor of anotherβwhether mentally, emotionally, or physically. If she is with you but her mind is elsewhere, you are not her first choice.
Women Always CompareβAnd They Must Diminish One Man for Another
Hereβs something you need to understand: A womanβs hypergamous brain is always assessing if she is with the best possible man.
When she runs into an ex, sheβs comparing. If she sees you as the superior man, she will diminish him in her mindβmaybe even openly in front of you. Thatβs her way of affirming her choice. And thatβs fine. Thatβs what you want.
But if she clings to the memory of that exβif she canβt let go, if she avoids talking about it, if she still holds him in high regardβyou have a serious problem. That means she hasnβt mentally diminished him for you. And that means, in her mind, youβre the one being diminished.
Itβs either you or him. There is no middle ground.
What Happens When Youβre Not Her Best?
Letβs be clear: Women settle.
If a woman cannot get her ideal manβthe one who left the strongest imprint on herβshe will choose a lesser man for security, comfort, or resources. Thatβs how most relationships form.
She will never tell you this.
She may act like you are her best choice, but if sheβs settled, she knows it deep down. And you can sense it too:
Sheβs distant, emotionally or sexually.
She avoids talking about certain parts of her past.
She is reluctant to praise you or call you the best.
She subtly tests you, looking for weaknesses.
She may not even consciously realize it, but her nature demands the best. If youβre not it, her brain will never be fully satisfied with you.
And that dissatisfaction leads to deceptionβdeception of you and herself.
She may tell herself sheβs happy. She may tell you sheβs happy. But deep down, her instincts know the truth.
Modern Men Are Accepting Weak, Beta Positions
We live in a time where men are being programmed to accept weak, degraded roles in relationships.
Polyamory (where she sleeps with other men and you just βacceptβ it).
Beta orbiters (men waiting in the friend zone, hoping for a chance).
Nice guys being a woman's βbackup planβ after sheβs done chasing alphas.
These strategies βworkβ in the sense that these men still get access to womenβbut at what cost?
A life of never being her first choice.
Being seen as a βsafe option,β not a true desire.
Transactional relationships where she uses you for security but craves someone else.
The masculine frame has been weakened, and society is pushing men to accept lower and lower positions in a womanβs hierarchy.
The Solution: Never Accept Anything Less Than Being Her Best
You need to harden your mindset around this. If you accept a diminished position, you are choosing to be weak.
Hereβs how you ensure you are never on the losing side of this equation:
Never commit unless you are certain youβre her sexual best.
If she is hesitant to say youβre the best sheβs had, thatβs a red flag.
If she still holds an ex in high regard, thatβs a problem.
If she doesnβt enthusiastically choose you, walk away.
Watch how she acts when she runs into an ex.
Does she introduce you with pride, making it clear sheβs chosen better?
Or does she linger, act awkward, or seem nostalgic?
If she hesitates, you are being diminished.
Understand that women will shame you for recognizing this truth.
Women hate this topic because it exposes something they wish wasnβt true.
But it is true. And pretending otherwise will destroy you.
Never tolerate behavior that weakens your position.
If she tries to keep an ex in her life, shut it down or walk away.
If she downplays your worth, call it out. If she doesnβt change, leave.
You cannot be dominant while tolerating disrespect.
Do not eroticize weakness.
Some men try to βcopeβ by eroticizing their own cuckingβthis is weakness at its worst.
You are either the best man in her life, or you are nothing. There is no βrole-playingβ your way out of that.
Walk Away from Any Woman Who Doesnβt See You as the Best
This is a binary issue. Either youβre the man she sees as her best, or youβre not.
There is no compromise.
If you ever sense youβre being diminishedβwhether itβs through her actions, her words, or the way she handles her pastβyou must have the strength to walk away.
You cannot be at your peak level as a man while accepting a weak, degraded position in a womanβs life.
Understand this. Accept it. And never allow yourself to be cuckedβmentally, emotionally, or physically.
Stay sharp. Stay strong. Demand respectβor walk.
A woman who keeps looking back is a woman who has never truly moved forward. And a woman who still holds onto her past is not your woman.
So ask yourself: Is she fully invested, or is she using you as an emotional placeholder?
If itβs the latter, you already know what to do.
A woman either follows your lead, or she follows her own way. There is no in-between.
Stay sharp,
Mr.Wayne
Wayneβs Executive Circle
MORE BONUS LESSONS FOR ALL THOSE WHO WANT TO LEARN MORE On How to Combat Emotional C*cking and Ensure She Fully Invests in You:
1. Establish Pre-Selection: Become the Man She Doesnβt Want to Lose
A woman doesnβt erase her past just because you tell her to. She erases it when she sees you as a once-in-a-lifetime manβsomeone so high-value that she wants to burn the bridges behind her.
How to Build Pre-Selection:
Increase Your Social Proof: Women are hyper-aware of social status. If other women admire you, she will instinctively fear losing you. This is why men with options donβt struggle with ex-related baggageβbecause their woman knows sheβs replaceable if she doesnβt invest fully.
Live a Life of Abundance: If youβre the kind of man who could replace her tomorrow, she wonβt entertain old options. Women only keep backups when they sense weakness in their man.
Control the Frame from Day One: If sheβs with you, sheβs in your worldβnot the other way around. This means setting expectations early so she understands that emotional loyalty is just as important as physical loyalty.
If she sees you as her apex choice, she will do anything to keep you. And that means eliminating the past.
2. Set Boundaries That Demand Emotional Exclusivity
Most men only demand physical loyalty. But emotional loyalty is just as importantβbecause emotional investment precedes physical actions. If sheβs reminiscing about an ex, sheβs already betrayed you mentally.
Non-Negotiable Boundaries:
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No Old Photos, Videos, or Mementos:
If she refuses to delete them, sheβs keeping a door openβwhether she admits it or not.
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No Following Exes or Staying in Touch βAs Friendsβ:
Studies show that 48% of women keep an ex around βjust in case.β Thereβs no reason to allow this. If she objects, sheβs revealing her lack of full investment in you.
β No Subtle C*cking Tactics:
Vague references to past lovers? Call it out.
βOh, I had the best trip to Italy with someoneβ¦β Who?
βI used to love this restaurantβ¦β Who took you here?
You need to shut that down immediately. The second she sees you tolerate it, she will test you further.
How to Enforce Boundaries Effectively:
Use Strong, Calm Statements: βThat doesnβt fly with me. If youβre still looking back, this isnβt going to work.β
Donβt Explain Yourself Too Much: You donβt argue. You state. You lead.
Show Willingness to Walk: If she tries to flip it on you (βYouβre insecureβ), respond with: βI donβt do relationships where my woman entertains the past. You either respect that or weβre done.β
Once she realizes you wonβt budge, sheβll either adjustβor reveal her true nature. Either way, you win.
3. Create an Environment Where She Invests Fully in You
If you only enforce boundaries but donβt pull her into your world, she may complyβbut she wonβt be emotionally locked in. The goal is to create an environment where she is so emotionally, sexually, and psychologically fulfilled that she has zero desire to look back.
How to Make Her Invest:
Be the Adventure She Craves: Women look back when the present feels less exciting than the past. If sheβs reminiscing about her ex, itβs because he gave her something that you donβt. Learn what excites her and be that.
Train Her to Seek Your Validation, Not the Pastβs: Give her positive reinforcement when she invests in you. When she brings up the future with you, reward that with affection. When she brings up the past, withdraw. She will learn what earns your attention.
Give Her No Reason to Compare: The best men donβt compete with an exβthey make the ex irrelevant. If she sees you as the superior man in all aspectsβstatus, confidence, sex, leadershipβshe will forget the past ever existed.
Women are wired for emotional attachment. If sheβs not attaching to you, sheβs attaching to something else. You must be her only source of emotional fulfillment.
4. Master Psychological Dominance: Be the Only Man She Can Attach To
Women donβt just choose men based on looks or money. They choose men based on emotional strengthβwhich means dominance, self-respect, and the ability to control the relationship frame.
Advanced Psychological Tactics:
1. Use Strategic Indifference:
If she tests you by bringing up the past, do not react emotionally. Instead, show complete disinterest in her old experiences.
Her: βI had an amazing time in Miami with someone once.β
You: βCool. So, weβre getting steak or sushi?β
This frames her past as irrelevant, making her feel foolish for bringing it up.
2. Mirror Her Investment:
If she fully invests, reward her.
If she holds back, you hold back more.
If she keeps old connections, you show zero jealousyβbut you also show zero long-term investment in her.
This forces her to make a decision: fully commit, or be left behind.
3. Use Fear of Loss to Lock in Commitment:
Women must know that if they disrespect your standards, they will lose you. If she tests you and sees that you will walk away without hesitation, she will instinctively correct her behavior.
βYou either choose me fully, or you donβt have me at all.β
When a woman knows you will leave, she will fight to keep you.
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